Disturbing. Cubs therapy was just applied to Trump while watching the news.
C: Why is our next president yelling so much?
Me: He is not our next president. He wants to be.
C: He said he was.
Me: 😔 Presidents need to be calm and kind. (These are therapy words we use with Cub to deal with explosive or irrational behavior)
C: He is not calm or kind.
Me: No, he is not. He needs to use his calm down breathing before he talks and think about his words before he says them.
C: That way he doesn’t hurt people?
Meet Monster. Monster is an 8 year old German Shepherd Dog who devotes her life to her humans.
Sometimes Cub just needs to be with someone who wants nothing from him. That’s where Monster comes in. She demands nothing from him. She doesn’t touch him or talk to him. She doesn’t want his eye contact. She doesn’t need to hear “I’m sorry” in order to forgive and forget when he hurts her. And she always wants to do what he wants to do, no matter how strange.
Monster must live forever, that’s all there is to it!
Cub’s teacher sent me this picture after suddenly being unable to find him in the classroom.
Cub is a smart guy with lots of words but approximately zero of those words are able to describe how he is feeling. He can tell you all about constellations but has no words for angry, hungry, potty, sleepy, etc. Because of this, we have to figure out how he is feeling by a change in behavior. The problem is that by the time the behavior has changed, it’s too late! Meltdown/Shutdown here we come.
It would seem based on the photo that Cub had enough fun and needed a break but maybe he was tired or sick. Translating behavior is an exhausting guessing game for everyone involved. Thank goodness the team in place to support Cub is diverse and committed. We will figure you out, yet, Little Cub!!
From the picture, you’d think Cub is tired or sick but you’d be wrong! Cub is having the time of his life. He just spent an hour playing heavy gross motor play at a local Family Fun Center with Tiger encouraging and protecting him. After an hour, Cub hit sensory overload and shut down. This is that moment.
It’s hard to explain to other bathroom-goers why it’s perfectly fine that my sweet Cub is lying motionless and silent on the cold tile of the women’s bathroom floor. We are new to taking him out in public during moments like these so I haven’t perfected my blurb that explains Cub’s behavior. This time, I fumbled over something like “he doesn’t process the world like we do.”
Right now, we are sitting on a PDD-NOS and ADHD diagnosis that grew out of an infancy diagnosis of Sensory Integration Dysfunction.
Keep following our journey!
Tiger and I are taking Cub to Disney with the rest of the Tiger clan next month. Cub informed me tonight that he “loves Ava” and wants to ‘bring her to see Mickey Mouse too’. Tiger told him to get a job.
Cub, Akorn, and I were sitting on Cub’s bed reading books. He looked at Akorn and said ‘Dis center is full, you go watch TV’ hahaha (. Apparently his bed is a two-person center. Good to know.
When playing trains, there is a wrong way, according to Little Cub. Tiger learned that the hard way. Since Cub still struggles to communicate his feelings, we are often left to guess why he is behaving a certain way. It takes trial and error and patience!
It’s Christmas Eve and we are counting down until Santa comes so it’s off to bed in a few.